How to be solution focused
We all have the freedom of choice to either focus on our problems or the solution to our problems. The challenge is that most people don’t recognise that it’s a matter of choice. They tend to blame their boss, their loves ones, their lack of time or a health condition.
Have you ever found yourself thinking or saying any of the following sentences?
- There isn’t enough time.
- My health condition prevents me from…(fill in the blank)
- My children take up all of my time.
- I have too much to do.
- We are really busy at work right now.
- I can’t concentrate.
- This is just how I am.
- It’s too difficult.
Each one of these statements focuses on how you can’t solve your problem, which in turn can lead to further stress and anxiety.
So what does it mean to be solution focused?
Solution-focused therapy is a type of treatment that highlights a client’s ability to solve problems, rather than why or how the problem was created. It means that instead of thinking about why you can’t do something, you’re going to start asking yourself and focusing on how you can make something work.
Here are some example questions that you could ask yourself to be more solutions-focused:
- What are the benefits of this problem?
- What is the next step for me right now?
- What am learning from this experience?
- How important is it for me to solve this problem?
- Am I taking full ownership for how my attitude, thoughts and beliefs are contributing to making this problem bigger?
- In what ways can I find a more creative solution to this problem?
Personally, if I can’t think of a solution, I accept and surrender to the problem and trust that an answer will come, while I keep working on maintaining the right attitude in the meantime. We simply must discipline ourselves to be solution focused. A solution focused approach requires focus and analysis of the problem, in order to succeed better in the future. It is also important to employ a creative mindset towards solutions.
According to Albert Einstein, “We are boxed by the boundary conditions of our thinking.” Meaning that our ability to find solutions to our problems, often depends on how closed or open minded we are as individuals.
Sarah is a Holistic Counsellor, Mental Health Social Worker, Art Therapist, Artist and Writer. She is also the Practice Manager at Mental Awakening.