We are living in a time where relationships have become increasingly polarised by simplified narratives. Everywhere we look there are frameworks telling us who to blame, who to leave, who is toxic, who is avoidant, who is anxious, who is incapable. While these frameworks can be helpful in offering language for patterns, they often reduce […]
Our anxieties are almost always due to thoughts about how something in our lives shouldn’t be the way it is. Either you should’t be the way you are, your partner shouldn’t be the way they are or your body, your career or your bank account shouldn’t be the way it is. The moment we believe
It’s not easy to trust life, people and even ourselves. I spent years being too stubborn for my own good that in the end I had to be forced to remain in a state of stillness (or “stuck-ness” as I called it at the time). I had no other option available to me than to
Whenever we feel even the slightest bit threatened, our body enters activation mode, which is the home of our stress response; the fight-or-flight response, activated by the sympathetic system. When this happens, the vagus nerve sends SOS signals to the sympathetic nervous system making our hearts pump harder and faster; activating stress responses in our
As a TMS Counsellor, the majority of my clients struggle with chronic pain, anxiety, depression and suppressed rage. I have significant experience with these challenges even on a personal level. Personally, I have come to recognise anger, whether suppressed and/or expressed, as one of the roadblocks to recovering from chronic pain and mental health challenges.
Managing Your Triggers Whenever your brain is reminded of a painful experience or a strong desire that feels out of reach, you will experience a trigger. The whole incident is so quick that we completely lose our connection with the present moment. Our physiological responses take over and our body instantly moves into a state